It is really beautiful to be in a relationship. It feels nice to have someone to love in your life. It is really very exciting. You feel on top of the world. But things are not same all the time. They do not work out some time. Nothing stays new forever. Things change as couples get to know each other better. Some couples go ahead and settle down in life with each other but few may drift apart.
It is really sad but it happens many a times. There can be many possible reasons behind break up. You might find that your thinking , interests , values and even feelings are not as well matched as you at first thought they were. Whatever may be the reason behind it ; if the time has come to break up your relationship then please do it respectfully. Do not forget you have shared few of your life’s beautiful moments with him/her.
Breakup is not an easy decision. Take time to think about it. It is an awkward moment. The person might feel insulted , rejected or may get hurt when you are the one ending the relationship. Handle the situation in a sensitive way. Neither should you become upset nor should he be hurt. It is little difficult but you have to tackle it well.
First decide what you are going to say actually. Speak such words such that you do not have to regret later. Be clear with your words and feelings too. Express them properly before your partner. Be true to yourself. The other person may get hurt with your decision. But it is okay if you feel it is right for you. But make sure the way is sensitive enough. He/she can react in a different way. You can not predict anything early. But you should be ready to accept his/her reaction. He may be very angry or upset. This time you should be you should be patient and calm. He/she may cry if he has emotional nature. You may get irritated but please do not say anything. You have to be patient. This is the last chance when you are together so it is okay. He/she may use bad words. It depends on that person’s nature.
Tell the other person in clear words why you want break up actually. And please say all this in person. You should not be surrounded by people. It will make both of you embarrassed. And the other person will get more insulted.
If meeting is not possible practically then either call or go for video chat. Do not even think of sending just a simple break up massage on mobile or any social network. It is the worst thing you could do to him/her. Just imagine how you would feel if it happens to you.
You may take help of a common trusted friend. But remember your girlfriend/boyfriend should hear it from you first not from anyone else. Do not disrespect him/her. You two can be good friends at least in future. Break ups are just planning what to say. Give him/her true and valid reasons why you want breakup.
You may be rude at once. Tell him/her once and for all about your feelings and say it is all over. It is a very straight forward way but will have an immediate effect. Your partner will not even feel like seeing your face again but I think this is what you wanted. Tell him/her that we can always be good friends but not more than that and you want to end the relationship.
If you really want break up then do not hesitate. Whatever happens later just be ready for that. Just say your word once and for all.
Post by- Anshu Mundada